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Lizard Brain

January 31, 2010 2 comments

I woke up at around nine o’ clock today morning. I thought of making a cup of milk tea then refrained myself. Spending a few dull moments in front of television, I stood up and went to the kitchen. I pulled myself and finally made a cup of lemon tea. Following that, I thought of washing my clothes, as I do not have any clean stuff to wear on Monday morning for office. But, I am yet struggling with the idea of starting my washing machine. I had bought a book on Risk Management two weeks ago, but procrastination is overcoming my keenness to run through the book.  Many a times it happens, you want to do something, then you change your mind, you do something else or sandbag the idea in between. Sometimes it also happens, you take immediate decisions (especially defensive, keep yourself cosy and to avoid any scuffle) without much thought process going behind. Later you even find your assessments acceptable however barely had you used your conscious level to take those decisions.

It is quite tricky to find out any explanation behind the irrational behavior of our mind. An American author of business books, Seth Godin, describes it the Lizard Brain at work, which is mostly concerned with the survival. Lizard hates change, achievement, and risk. Lizard Brain’s only reaction to everything is resistance (do not call it fear). Would you want to speak in public, would you want to buy something, would you want to go for a vacation, lizard brain is always going to put jitters on your way. Seth Godin rightly says that the resistance grows in strength, as we get closer to the truth of what we really want. The voice of resistance will always ring bells somewhere in the back of our mind signalling us to pull back, go slow and compromise.

We all have a pinch of Lizard traits at the top of our spine, inside the skull. On lighter side, we have had it since we were Lizards as evolutionists argue that we have evolved from lizards (around 300 million years ago when we were Tetrapodes). All I can say is that Lizard characteristics are never going to obtain victory for us in any battle of life. We cannot shoot that lizard or punch it to keep it quiet, but we can suspend the judgement coming from Lizard inside our body in order to overcome lizard traits. Now I am going to wash my clothes suspending the judgement presented by the lizard inside me.

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बहिखाता 1

January 29, 2010 2 comments

बहिखाता

कुछ फ़ुर्सत के पलों में आज,
यादों के पन्नो को पलट रहा था |
क्या मिला और क्या छूटा अब तक,
शायद हिसाब लगा रहा था |

शुरुआती पन्ने कुछ गल से गये थे,
लिखा साफ दिख रहा नही था |
धुंधले से कई शब्द दिखे थे,
बचपन समेटे कुछ लिखा हुआ था |

शांत, सहज, पन्ने पलट रहा था,
चित्रपट  पर जैसे,
बीता वक़्त मैं देख रहा था |
कभी मंद मुस्काता , तो कभी
आँखों में पानी आता,
काश समय वो लौट के आता,
शायद मैं ये सोच रहा था |

हिसाब बराबर लगा रहा था,
खोने से ज़्यादा, पाया ही था |
पर जो खोया,
उस पर अफ़सोस जताना, वाजिब नही था |
बचपन था वो, जो अब जी लिया,
वो किरदार, कब का निभा लिया |

तभी खुद को मैने, भावुक पाया,
बिसरी यादों से बाहर आया |
सोचा, हर चीज़ का हिसाब नही होता,
संजोए हुए पुरानी यादों का,
कोई बहिखाता नही होता |

Republic Day

January 27, 2010 Leave a comment

फिर सोने की चिड़िया कहलाएगा ..

गणतंत्र दिवस की बेला पर
मिलकर नारा बुलंद करो |
अखंड रखेंगे सीमाओं को,
अनुसरण करेंगे
और चलेंगे,
राष्ट्र पिता के वचनो पर |

कभी अविचल, और अडिग थी,
संस्कृति, आदर्श और विचारधारा हमारी |
तरस रही  है जीवन को,
खोखली दिन प्रति दिन, अब वो हो रही |
गौरन्वित करती कभी विश्व पटल पर,
अंतिम साँसे गिन, शर्मसार अब वो हो रही |

मिलकर तुमको-हमको,
वो गौरव वापस लाना है |
सिर्फ़ बातों से नहीं,
अपने कर्मो से भी,
परचम गगम में लहराना है |

क्यों बात करें पड़ोसी मुल्कों का
और बढ़ रही विदेशी साज़िशों का |
जब अपने ही, देश को चूस रहे,
नित-नये उदाहरण दे रहे,
भ्रष्ट, भ्रष्टतम, भ्रष्टाचार का |

बहुत हुआ, अब बंद करो
करना बातें तुम बड़ी-बड़ी |
खोया अभिमान अर्जित करने को …
कस लो कमर, हो ढृढ निश्चयी,
हाथ जोड़, बन एक कड़ी,
अब समर भूमि में कूद पड़ो |

मत देखो एक-दूजे को,
प्रारंभ करेगा कौन अभी |
अग्नि भी होती प्रज्वलित,
किंचित चिंगारी से |

एक कदम तू चल बढ़ा,
मार्ग स्वयं फिर बन जाएगा |
लौटेगी  अपनी पुरानी गरिमा,
और फिर से भारत वर्ष,
सोने की चिड़िया कहलाएगा |

Categories: Hindi Poems

Republic Day

January 27, 2010 5 comments

फिर सोने की चिड़िया कहलाएगा ..

गणतंत्र दिवस की बेला पर
मिलकर नारा बुलंद करो |
अखंड रखेंगे सीमाओं को,
अनुसरण करेंगे
और चलेंगे,
राष्ट्र पिता के वचनो पर |

कभी अविचल, और अडिग थी,
संस्कृति, आदर्श और विचारधारा हमारी |
तरस रही  है जीवन को,
खोखली दिन प्रति दिन, अब वो हो रही |
गौरन्वित करती कभी विश्व पटल पर,
अंतिम साँसे गिन, शर्मसार अब वो हो रही |

मिलकर तुमको-हमको,
वो गौरव वापस लाना है |
सिर्फ़ बातों से नहीं,
अपने कर्मो से भी,
परचम गगम में लहराना है |

क्यों बात करें पड़ोसी मुल्कों का
और बढ़ रही विदेशी साज़िशों का |
जब अपने ही, देश को चूस रहे,
नित-नये उदाहरण दे रहे,
भ्रष्ट, भ्रष्टतम, भ्रष्टाचार का |

बहुत हुआ, अब बंद करो
करना बातें तुम बड़ी-बड़ी |
खोया अभिमान अर्जित करने को …
कस लो कमर, हो ढृढ निश्चयी,
हाथ जोड़, बन एक कड़ी,
अब समर भूमि में कूद पड़ो |

मत देखो एक-दूजे को,
प्रारंभ करेगा कौन अभी |
अग्नि भी होती प्रज्वलित,
किंचित चिंगारी से |

एक कदम तू चल बढ़ा,
मार्ग स्वयं फिर बन जाएगा |
लौटेगी  अपनी पुरानी गरिमा,
और फिर से भारत वर्ष,
सोने की चिड़िया कहलाएगा |

Categories: Hindi Poems

Money Brings God Closer?

January 25, 2010 4 comments

Like thousands of people, thinking to drive away my sins and get a safe seat to heaven by paying a heartfelt visit to Lord Venkateswera’s, I also made a quick trip to Tirupati Balaji last weekend. I had to fit Balaji Darshan and then Padmawati Darshan (located at the foothills of Tirumala) into my tight schedule which had to be completed within 12 hours anyhow. I, along with my friend, started the enchanting journey to Tirupati on Saturday night. We reached Tirupati early morning next day. In order to beat the time crunch, we felt not to waste our time running around for hotels and thus decided to use Indian Railway’s waiting room for getting fresh. Immediately after that, we put our bags in the cloak room and left for Tirumala.

By 9:00 AM, we made ourselves a part of a long queue to getting a “Quick Darshan” ticket. As I was proceeding towards the God (or Darshan to be more specific), all the reverence and spiritual sentiments were being refurbished by the eccentric emotions that even God has started loving to those who are rich. At least this is what I found there. If you are a VIP, you might get a chance to even touch the Lord, if you have purchased Rs. 300 Ticket, you could get Darshan with in 2 hours, if you have Rs. 50 ticket, Lord might take some where 7-8 hours or more to bring you closer to him and if you do not have any ticket, then even Lord cannot tell how long would it take you to have his Darshan. Does it mean that the more money you have, the closer you are to God? The tickets reminded me of Land allotment schemes of Development Authorities in cities based on an individual’s income. If you have little money with you, you can buy a small piece of land under Low Income Group (LIG) plan, if you have little more money, you can buy a bigger piece of land under Medium Income Group (MIG) plan and if money is not a problem for you then you can buy a land under Higher Income Group (HIG) plan. Possibly Lord Venkateswera never wanted to draw a line of demarcation between his devotees, but we have taken the exploitation of people’s faith (which has truly no boundries) to a different level all together.

Gali Janardhan Reddy hit the media and news channels when he “gifted” Lord Venkateswara at Tirupati a 20 kg diamond-studded crown which came for an astounding Rs. 42 crores. And then he might have been allowed (which I feel) to put the crown on Lord’s head. But Rs. 300 ticket which I had bought was not enough to even stand for a few seconds in front of the deity. I know there is always a second side of the story. Thirupathi Devasthanam has taken several steps to improve the livelihood of people living in Andhra and surrounding states. But haven’t we over commercialized our God? It is not only a common man, but Saints and “Dharm-Gurus” say that everybody is equal in front of God, then why do we have free, special, VIP and VVIP entries at privileged temples. I do not think that God would attempt to wear 20 kg crown as he would probably break his neck. Then how much sense does it make to donate such a costly item to God, probably that much money could have fed thousands of poor people for months.

I seriously cannot figure out what made Bill and Melinda Gates to form a society worth $21.8 billion for charity and influenced Warren Buffet giving away $44 billion to them, why did not they donate the same money to some holy shrine instead.

Two States

January 20, 2010 2 comments

Another Chetan Bhagat’s book launched around 2 months ago, Two States, being considered to be adapted for movie versions (like, Five Point Someone adapted as Three Idiots and One Night @ Call Center adapted as Hello). While reading, you can easily relate some or the other instances in the book with your real life experiences if yours is also a love marriage. At least I could feel the same as I went through a roller-coaster to turn my wedding dream into reality. Though at times you might feel as well that you are reading a fairy tale where in prince and princess fight to all odds and sometimes turn impossible to possible, yet you find yourself occupied until you finish the entire book.

2 States is Chetan’s autobiographical take on inter-caste (or community/region precisely) love marriages. The story revolves around Krish (a Punjabi boy from Delhi) and Ananya (a Tamilian girl from Chennai) who had their first encounter in IIMA. Ananya was the most beautiful, smart and sought after girl of the batch. Their friendship started on terms of only friendship and nothing else. Terms and conditions were forced by Ananya; otherwise you must admit a boy would never expect only friendship with a girl especially if she is the most beautiful girls aroundJ. Later on Krish realized that he had a huge crush on her and he could not be only friends with her. Some dramatic stuff took place and Ananya let him free of all her imposed terms and conditions. In the midst of study, exams, love and intimacy, their 2 years long stint with IIMA ends on a positive note with their dream jobs in hand. They decided to meet each other’s parents on convocation day, but events took place in a manner that worsened the situation. Then story takes a heroic turn and Krish joins his first job in Chennai (Ananya’s first posting was also in Chennai), recognizing he would get an opportunity to stay closer to Ananya’s family and would get ample chance to woo them. Ananya’s parents wanted her to get married to an IIT+MITian, who along with his parents came to Chennai to see Ananya. Lots of events took place like, Krish tutored Ananya’s brother on IIT entrance examination, helped Ananya’s father to create a classic presentation and boosted his morale to do it before senior management and finally made Ananya’s mother’s log time dream real to become a singer. All his efforts helped him to reap rich rewards finally. Girl’s parents gave a green signal on Krish and now it was her turn to woo Krish’s family. Meanwhile, Krish took transfer to Delhi and Ananya also followed him for a week. She stayed at Krish’s home, only to see her would be mother-in-law’s growing hatred towards her. She went to attend a wedding ceremony of Krish’s cousin where Groom side created some trouble and almost decided to end everything minutes before the final rituals. It caused panic in the family and then Ananya helped them come out of the trouble single handedly. This incidence suddenly turned the wave of appreciation and affection towards Ananya; even Krish’s long distant relatives were in favor of Krish and Ananya’s marriage. Now that Ananya’s family accepted Krish and Kirsh’s family accepted Ananya, but both the families had yet to accept each other.

Another side of the story was Krish’s poor relationship with his father. During the course of time the pit between their relationships also filled in. It was in fact  Krish’s father who played instrumental role to bridge gaps between two families. Finally Krish and Ananya tied the divine knot in Chennai with some funny and humorous instances quoted in the book, which you would definitely like to read.

Many books have been written on love stories, but this book scores high because of the way author has presented the story. There are times when you would feel that certain insignificant part of Krish’s life is described in vast detail. And then, there are times when author rushes through some of the relatively important parts. You might feel to stop and leave the book as it becomes too predictive at times. But, Chetan’s ability to hold the reader’s imagination ties up it for him. A nice story, full of Masala, and over to that it cost your pocket just under Rs. 100, is a worth bet.

Life running backward

January 8, 2010 6 comments

Wish you all a very happy and prosperous new year and success in all your future endeavours. May all bachelors get married and married people plan for baby.…. J

This is my first post in year 2010. I am on one week leave and spending my time with my parents, wife and kid in Lucknow. You might feel this post a bit weird, but for sure, it is interesting to think what would happen when you start your life backward. I was having a cup of coffee in Hazratganj yesterday with my Jija ji (he is Major in Indian army, currently in Lucknow on leave), where he asked me to think about life running backward. Then I thought of writing a blog on the idea.

Have you ever pondered your life starting backward? Have you ever thought about starting your life with your funeral? You might feel these questions a little idiotic, but are certainly very exciting and daunting and give a different perspective of life. Let us try to ride the life in reverse gear and find how funny it would have been if life ran backwards, sort of like the video of Enigma’s song, which had a unicorn running backwards.


************ FUNERAL TO THE AGE OF 60 YEARS************


Here it goes…. you start your life with your funeral. You are dead now and everybody is crying. Your dead body is returning to your home from burial ground. Your quite body is kept on the floor and last rituals are performed in chronologically reverse order. Gradually the crying of your near and dear ones picks up intensity. Your family members call everybody and inform about your death to the relatives and friends. A sudden wave of grief and sorrow looms in the family. A moment comes, when the first member in your home who found you were dead, informs other family members. In a jiffy, all mourning and pain in the family disappear. Everybody is now engaged in his or her daily activities. You are lying in your bed, almost dying. You are in the worst state of your health, but it is improving now (remember, life is running backward!!!).

Few days after, you start walking with your stick. You have arthritis, heart problem and many more to add to the list. Nevertheless, with each passing day, your health is improving. You are feeling younger. A day comes, when you leave stick, as you do not need a stick to help balance while walking. You are regaining your straight body and hairs on your baldhead. You are now in the process of removing artificial teeth as one by one your adulthood teeth start coming. You are meeting new friends in the park where you go for walk. You are enjoying your retired life to the fullest with the pension coming to you.


************ AT THE AGE OF 60 YEARS, STARTING JOB************


During the course of time, a day comes when you have to start your job. You are 60 years old now. Your retirement period is over. You are in your office, your first day (had it been a normal life, it would be your retirement day). Everybody is giving you gifts and bouquet. Some pof your colleagues, who are younger than you, are feeling sad. You are starting your job not like a fresher, but with more than 35-40 years of work experience (remember, life is running backward and your first day in office is your retirement day in real scenario !!!).

Second day in office, you are wrapping up your things and the new person replacing you is all set to start. You are very emotional today with numb eyes. After 35-40 years of long service to the corporate world, you are saying goodbye finally. As the days pass by, you get more and more engrossed in your work. You have to work for the next few decades until you are too young to work. Having started the job with loads of experience, your experience is eventually coming down, but you are getting energetic physically and mentally. Zeal to conquer the entire world starts developing in your heart, as you want to reach the pinnacle. Now you are reaching to the end of your professional career. You are in your early twenties. You are working hard and partying harder. Your weekends are rocking in pubs and discos. Your wardrobe fashions only latest apparel. You have let your heart lead you to enjoyment in the days of your youth. You are following the desires of your heart.


************ RETIRING FROM JOB IN EARLY TWENTIES************


Your second last day in office, you still have to get over the hangover because of liquor you had on last night of your career’s last day. You are attending the induction programme and trying hard to concentrate on what they are telling you about the company. You feel to be at home as early as possible to slip into the bed. And now your last day in office, you are very happy. Your joining formalities are being done. You are thinking that now you have achieved what you had aspired for. You are wearing properly ironed new clothes. After office, you are planning to throw a lavish party to your friends and thereafter booze entire night. Woww… lovely feeling. You are on cloud nine.


************ COLLEGE TO SCHOOL************


You spend few more days and now you are in college. Your life is only with your friends. You laugh together, you cry together, you study together and party together. You are placed in your dream organization (probably!). For rest of the year, you are planning trips to different places, visiting your friends and relatives. You are licentious, running behind girls, trying to flirt and end up with multiple relationships like few girlfriends and many sisters. Days are passing, and you are becoming more and more serious towards your study. Your aim is to be on top in your college and get placed in the best organization coming to your campus.

Few days later, you are again enjoying your life. It is the time now to reap rich reward of your intense hard work you put in to get admitted to your dream institute. You are playing with your school friends, meeting your teachers to inform them that finally you are going to wear the pride by joining one of the premier institutes of the country (may be not true in many cases like me  🙂 ). You are working hard to crack prestigious examinations so that you get admission to your dream institute. Few more months passed by and now, you are in school. Your daily schedule is to have dinner, do some self-study and go to the park to play, back to home and do your homework, go for coaching and tuition, then school, attend classes and sleep (just to remind you again that life is running backward). Many celebrations come and go and you grow younger from adolescence to teenager to a kid. Your age as well as height is reducing. You are becoming childish day by day. You are coming down to half pant from full pants.


************ TEENAGER TO KID************


Then your teeth (adulthood teeth) start falling and a new set of teeth (few people call them milk teeth) replace them. You are heavily dependent on your parents. Suddenly you forget walking and fall on the floor (remember, backward life). You are in nappies and your parents teach you every little thing around you. Curiosity keeps you plugged into life. You crawl here and there, try to touch and hold anything you find in your reach. After few more months, you are in the lap of your parents. You are a little baby now. You have forgotten whatever little words you could mumble. You are approaching the dusk of your life. Soon you find people around you are very happy as a new kid is born in the family.

Looks strange, right…..?? you are coming to the end of your life, but people in your family, your parents are very happy.. that sounds so unlikely… may be because of life is running backward…??


************  IN THE WOMB – AND LIFE ENDS************


Ok, so the day has arrived, you are just born. Your parents, grandparents, uncles, aunts and everybody is trying to hold you. You are crying. You are not able to understand that where the hell have you landed. Your family members in the hospital are distributing sweets. Phones are ringing to convey best wishes to your family members. There is joy and delight everywhere.

After another few minutes, and you are in the womb. It is very difficult for you to adjust there. The place is not enough for you. You want to come out immediately. Few more days passed and you start feeling comfortable in the womb. It is so cosy there. Your mother’s body is taking care of you and providing you full nutrition. You do not have worry about anything. You are growing smaller and smaller. Your body parts are disappearing with each passing day. One day you lost your fingers, then hand and then feet. You are now a living organism with a heart, which is the only sing of life in you without any body part and brain. You are floating in amniotic fluid. You become a foetus and then disappear. Thus the life ends with orgasm.