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Standing Darsh

May 22, 2010 1 comment

Darsh standing with support of bed………………

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Meri Madhushala -2

May 21, 2010 5 comments
“Meri Madhushala-2” is my second effort (first being this) to write a poem using the instruments of Bachchan ji [madira or haala (wine), saaki (server), pyaala (cup or glass) and madhusala, madiralaya (pub/bar) ] that he used in Madhushala to explain the complexities of life. I hope I have not hurt the emotions of his fans and expect your inputs on how to improve for next versions. I am highly inspired by Madhushala and I maintain that nothing can match it’s stature ever.

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नियमित चला था राह पे अपनी, कि खनका कहीं तो था प्याला,
कदम मुड़े और बढ़ चले, हो जैसे पुकारे साकीबाला,
चलते चलते जीर्ण हुआ अब, जीवन की त्वरित गति में मैं,
मधुमय कर, लौटा दो बल, अब तो मेरा ओ मधुशाला |
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इधर नही, और उधर नही, मिले जहाँ मुझको हाला,
रम जाऊँगा, धुनि लगा के, हाथ में लिए अपना प्याला,
न व्यर्थ करूँगा जीवन शेष, दुनिया की आपा-धापी में,
जब आ पहुँचू चौखट पर तेरे, नहलाना मधु से मधुशाला |
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Life Becoming a Mess

I try to make it a point to add some or the other article to my blog every week and at the same time I wait for something to inspire me to pen down my thoughts. In principle, this post is an outcome of a noetic stir  created by a friend’s blog.

He started his post mentioning his career interest, then how it was influenced by his near and dear ones (as it might have happened with most of us) and had to pick up one of the various options put infront of him by his parents. Today he finds himself caught in materialistic cuffs and surrounded by phantasm of a beautiful life bringing no real juice of happiness. Immediately after reading his post, I realized that it was a memoir of millions of professionals like us, lettered by him so meticulously. He has well said that we have become a programmed machine and operate the way we receive keyboard commands.

He feels that this kind of life has become an integral part of IT world, however I think this is the story any corporate. With the little knowledge of economy and globalization that I have, I attribute this growing phenomenon to increasing consumerism and cut-throat competition in a dynamic business environment. Every businessman wants to make more and more money by being aggressive in his modus operandi, develops immense pressure on his employees to deliver and in the process screws their personal life. I am sure that we will not be able to withstand the stressful professional life until the age of 58 or 60, the normal retirement age. Even if we are able to continue, this trepidation would take its toll and it would be evident on our health and personal front. I have seen a few successful people in IT industry (probably you would have also), look far older at the age of 45. Ain’t this a testimony to my previous statement.

We all are running and running in a never ending race. We remember when and from where we had started, but none of us know where and how long this racing track would lead us to. When you clear your higher secondary, you are advised to go for a professional course. Then you crack an elite competition and complete your graduation from a reputed institute and land into a “good” job. From there you see something else and aspire to go for post graduation or super-specialization. You do that as well and get something better than you had earlier. Time passes by, and you realize that you are looking for something else and you start chasing that. It could be anything, more money, better position or anything else. Thus, we keep on running with our goals and destinations changing very often. There is nothing wrong in that, we get only one life and aiming to achieve as much in that is not a stupidity.

But do we ever realize that life does not revolve only around this cat race, and there are many more things in the periphery. Life is not only about piling up money and collecting luxury and comforts. When a person leaves this world, he is remembered for his money and property until it is distributed to his children, then everybody forgets him. But a person, who has earned “People” is remembered for ages. When Profit and Loss statement of life is written, it is only the people we have earned, comes into the asset’s side. Rest all is liability. In my small life till date, I have learnt that it is always wise to visit your Profit and Loss Statement often so that you can consistently evaluate the “health of your life”.

I am not suggesting to withdraw from this cat race as it is also required to climb up the ladder with time, however we need to introspect at every logical break in this race to understand that what are we losing and what are we gaining in long run and how much the stuffs that we are losing and gaining, are important to us and which one should be given higher priority. Our parents did not enjoy the life of metro cities and other materialistic things, but during the journey of their life they successfully raised and nurtured us and infused us with ethics and values which would always be a weapon for us to fight against the odds of life. This is what they gained while compromising with the standards of life. Like I enjoy driving a mid segment car and sleeping in an AC on my own potential, my father (being a class 1 officer) could have also bought a Car and afford an AC during the early years of his career, but he abstained. He had set his priority for his long term vision and apparently this made me to reach where I am.

Probably we also need to identify our priorities and before that we will have to have a clear vision of our long term goals not only with regards to professional life but with personal life as well.

Life Becoming a Mess

May 15, 2010 5 comments

I try to make it a point to add some or the other article to my blog every week and at the same time I wait for something to inspire me to pen down my thoughts. In principle, this post is an outcome of a noetic stir  created by a friend’s blog.

He started his post mentioning his career interest, then how it was influenced by his near and dear ones (as it might have happened with most of us) and had to pick up one of the various options put infront of him by his parents. Today he finds himself caught in materialistic cuffs and surrounded by phantasm of a beautiful life bringing no real juice of happiness. Immediately after reading his post, I realized that it was a memoir of millions of professionals like us, lettered by him so meticulously. He has well said that we have become a programmed machine and operate the way we receive keyboard commands.

He feels that this kind of life has become an integral part of IT world, however I think this is the story any corporate. With the little knowledge of economy and globalization that I have, I attribute this growing phenomenon to increasing consumerism and cut-throat competition in a dynamic business environment. Every businessman wants to make more and more money by being aggressive in his modus operandi, develops immense pressure on his employees to deliver and in the process screws their personal life. I am sure that we will not be able to withstand the stressful professional life until the age of 58 or 60, the normal retirement age. Even if we are able to continue, this trepidation would take its toll and it would be evident on our health and personal front. I have seen a few successful people in IT industry (probably you would have also), look far older at the age of 45. Ain’t this a testimony to my previous statement.

We all are running and running in a never ending race. We remember when and from where we had started, but none of us know where and how long this racing track would lead us to. When you clear your higher secondary, you are advised to go for a professional course. Then you crack an elite competition and complete your graduation from a reputed institute and land into a “good” job. From there you see something else and aspire to go for post graduation or super-specialization. You do that as well and get something better than you had earlier. Time passes by, and you realize that you are looking for something else and you start chasing that. It could be anything, more money, better position or anything else. Thus, we keep on running with our goals and destinations changing very often. There is nothing wrong in that, we get only one life and aiming to achieve as much in that is not a stupidity.

But do we ever realize that life does not revolve only around this cat race, and there are many more things in the periphery. Life is not only about piling up money and collecting luxury and comforts. When a person leaves this world, he is remembered for his money and property until it is distributed to his children, then everybody forgets him. But a person, who has earned “People” is remembered for ages. When Profit and Loss statement of life is written, it is only the people we have earned, comes into the asset’s side. Rest all is liability. In my small life till date, I have learnt that it is always wise to visit your Profit and Loss Statement often so that you can consistently evaluate the “health of your life”.

I am not suggesting to withdraw from this cat race as it is also required to climb up the ladder with time, however we need to introspect at every logical break in this race to understand that what are we losing and what are we gaining in long run and how much the stuffs that we are losing and gaining, are important to us and which one should be given higher priority. Our parents did not enjoy the life of metro cities and other materialistic things, but during the journey of their life they successfully raised and nurtured us and infused us with ethics and values which would always be a weapon for us to fight against the odds of life. This is what they gained while compromising with the standards of life. Like I enjoy driving a mid segment car and sleeping in an AC on my own potential, my father (being a class 1 officer) could have also bought a Car and afford an AC during the early years of his career, but he abstained. He had set his priority for his long term vision and apparently that made me to reach where I am.

Probably we also need to identify our priorities and before that we will have to have a clear vision of our long term goals not only with regards to professional life but with personal life as well.

To Darsh, from Me

May 8, 2010 1 comment

Dude,

You have completed 6 months today while living along with human beings on the only inhabitable planet known to mankind. It seems like yesterday we had discovered the pregnancy of your mom and today you are 6 months old. On each passing day, you are achieving a milestone and your accomplishments provide me a personal sense of triumph. It can be crawling, it can be turning, it can be your efforts to speak… every time I expect you to learn something new. I try to teach you many a things buddy (esp. to keep your foot out of your mouth which displays your exceptional yoga/acrobatic skills) , and at the same time you also keep on shaping my thoughts and help me being a better person. I leave on you to comment on this when you will grow. Somebody has truly said that “Child is the father of Man”. I must admit that I am learning from you the way to enjoy every moment, to be care-free at times, to love people around you, to laugh avowedly, to befriend strangers with your ethos, to try hard until you learn what you want to and the list is endless. Your unconditional love and the way you look at me has suddenly made me taking to being a responsible father who should always be there to protect you from any physical and moral harm.

I honestly do not know about your mother, while I was definitely very skeptical at the prospect of being a father. Then you came, made me forget my quivers and I discovered my greatest stress buster in you. I am really overwhelmed with you around me. Now completing three years of my career, I am still learning various intricacies of professional life and in the process sometimes, I have a hard day at my workplace. But when I am back at home, your serene smile welcoming me , makes me feel as light as a feather. Anywhere I am, thinking of you inherently brings a smile at my face and then it is very difficult to be away from you. The way you stare at the things around you to entertain yourself and suddenly start laughing or crying, brings a complete entertainment package for us as well. I will pray that your innocence and placidity is not invaded by the crookedness of this world; and hope you will become a good human being and continue achieving many more milestones in future. All the very best and wish you a good health and great life ahead. God Bless you my little miracle.

Yours Only

Darsh with Nani-Maa and Bua

Darsh with Nani-Maa and his Mom

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Growing Darsh

May 3, 2010 2 comments

It is truly an awesome feeling to see your kid growing.  I and Pooja are actually witnessing a transformation of a quite baby into a raucous one. To seek our attention, he would scream as if he would tear apart his vocal chord. His activities drive us crazy, but at the same time we never resist ourself to miss his mischiefs. I do not know if I would maintain this statement in future as well, but honestly speaking I had never wanted a silent baby. I always thought of my baby to mesmerize me with his dalliances. Rolling from his stomach to back and then back to his stomach, his successful and failed attempts to crawl, shuffling on the buttocks, his evident efforts to listen to our talks and trying to imitate our vowels and consonants, take us to the ride of a different world. This week he would be completing 6 months on earth.  Time is really flying with multiple wings attached to it.

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